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Lady_Acoma
12-07-2010, 05:57 PM
So I have been off doing my own things for awhile and hadn't really made much time to really do much other then skim over threads. But I will always feel like you guys are an extended family of mine and so I wanted to stop in and say hi.

Life has been pretty good lately. My girlfriend moved in about 3 months ago and it has been wonderful. The comfort of just being able to lay down together every night and not have to worry about needing to drive home soon is great. Having someone to sit and laugh with about stupid silly things is awesome. It has helped me to relax so much.

Things that would have upset me terribly in the past have not been to much to deal with. I lost disability due to having worked to much (they said, I am arguing with them about that because they say I owe them money, I have documentation that says I did not exceed the income I was supposed to) but I am really happy about it. Because I was still considered disabled I continued with medicare and can keep that for like 5 years I think. I never wanted to be a burden so while loosing half of my income sucked, the SO and I figured out that we could make it work though things would be tight so I didn't try to argue to get back on it. It was liberating which confused a lot of people and they wanted me to reapply or appeal, I just was happy to move on no matter that I knew it would be tough.

I just got news that I have some more complications due to diabetes. Gastroparesis (http://digestive.niddk.nih.gov/ddiseases/pubs/gastroparesis/) is something that I have watched my younger brother deal with for years. It isn't pleasant, and I have been terrified of getting it for all of this time because of seeing what has happened with him. However when I got the news it was just one of those moments where it was like yeah that is really shitty news but I knew it could happen and so now I am just finding out what I need to do to take care of it.

But I got great news Friday. I have been bumped up to full time with benefits. I will start on the 13th with the hours and everything (new pay cycle) and will have the benefits starting in January. This is the first job I have had that will be a regular full time thing. And to have insurance is kind of like a dream. That has always been a big concern of mine considering my illnesses. I like the work I do, I am ambitious within my field and feel that I can go far. This is just another step along my path. I had been doing a lot of networking and self education as well as busting my ass to do things right and now it is paying off.

So yeah, I feel good and I wanted to share. I know in the past I had just bitched about shit and I am sorry about that, now I am in a better place and I wanted to bring that instead. Thanks for putting up with me.

cnath.rm
12-07-2010, 06:47 PM
Glad to see you back. No worries about the past, congrats on the great news!! For my wife and I, not having to have saying "goodnight" go hand in hand with "goodbye" was one of the major things we looked forward to. I'm glad that you are enjoying it and that things are working out. :)

Dawnstar
12-08-2010, 07:39 AM
So glad that you checked in.

I am happy that things are working out with the girl friend. it is nice when things work out like that and just make like happier and simpler. And CONGRATS on the full time job with benefits. That is great news. It is such a great thing to get that first one that just sort of takes care of things.

Lady Fury
12-08-2010, 07:46 AM
It's nice to hear some good news about you. I think losing the disability payments sucks a little but since you have a full time job that you like now, it all works out. Sounds like you'll be having a really nice holiday this year. :)

Cat of Ulthar
12-08-2010, 10:34 AM
Good to see you again, girl, and good to hear you are doing so well for yourself!

Lady_Acoma
12-08-2010, 06:29 PM
The bad thing about being on disability or in the public aid system is that it sets you up to stay in it. Trying to get out causes a lot of struggles and the fear of what happens if it doesn't work makes it easier to stay where you are. It was good that my payments stopped but that I was able to keep insurance. I felt like I had a bit of freedom to be more proactive about advocating for a job. It wasn't like I was going to loose those checks at that point, they were already gone. I had been trying to get full time work for a good deal of time, but I also was a bit to complacent because I had that money covering things. Most people would not and do not feel this way about things, and probably wouldn't have the ability to make it without the disability income. So long as I had some kind of insurance though I was going to be able to make it work I thought. I hated being on disability so I am overjoyed to be out of it.


On a side note ~ I found this and thought I would share. Cthulhu Squishable (http://www.squishable.com/pc/squish_cthulhu_15/Big_Animals/plush+cthulhu)

Dawnstar
12-09-2010, 02:26 PM
Squishable cthulhu looks adorable. I want one but not sure i want to pay 42 dollars for it.