Fuck...

[Squash Cop]

She wants to give the ring back.

Six and a half years we've been together. Known eachother for ten. We've had some hardships, but I didn't think it was this bad.

I need another box of tissues.

[Schizm]

I'm sorry squashy. It hurts like hell, I know.

[bunny]

:hugs: I had no idea. One box of astrally projected tissues loaded with support on its way.

[Droid101]

Nice

Sorry bud. It's going to hurt for a while, but we're all here for you.

Mean

Fuck her. Get drunk and fuck a sloppy cocktail waitress.

[Squash Cop]

I am drunk. There's an empty tequila bottle by the bed an d a bottle of rum calling to me.

[bunny]

Mean

Fuck her. Get drunk and fuck a sloppy cocktail waitress.

I wouldn't quite put it that way, but a nice night of absolute debauchery where you wake up feeling even shittier than you do now can sometimes put things into perspective. Then spend some time working out, hiking, doing yoga and getting plenty of leafy greens and whole grains and you'll at least start feeling better physically. Hang out with friends LOTS. Not only will it ease the loneliness, but it also provides a chance to meet new people.

[Droid101]

I wouldn't quite put it that way, but a nice night of absolute debauchery where you wake up feeling even shittier than you do now can sometimes put things into perspective.

Yeah, that. But I used more profanity and less words. USA! USA!

[bunny]

I am drunk. There's an empty tequila bottle by the bed an d a bottle of rum calling to me.

Alcohol is a mood enhancer. If you drink heavily make sure you get all the emotion out. Wish I was there. You shouldn't be drinking alone.

And I can't stress this enough, use this time to work out. It will release endorphines. Natures wonder drug. Not only will it help you feel better, but it will raise your self esteem.

[Squash Cop]

I got a bit of a workout at work today. I got to pound out some frustration on a bent snowplow.

[Cat of Ulthar]

Oh no Squashy :( All out of the blue? Is she sure?

So sorry my friend.

[Hatter]

Sorry to hear that Squashie. Exercise is always good, outdoors stuff too, weather permitting. Hang in there.

[Droid101]

I'm taking a shot of Patron in your honour tonight my friend. Perhaps two.

[Vermicious Knid]

Nice

Sorry bud. It's going to hurt for a while, but we're all here for you.

Mean

Fuck her. Get drunk and fuck a sloppy cocktail waitress.


Hilarious


Get Dr. Midnight drunk and do him in the pooper, then email her the video. At the very least you won't be the only one feeling sad and awkward.

[Squash Cop]

I'm taking a shot of Patron in your honour tonight my friend. Perhaps two.

Thanks for the sentiment. Rum now.

[Freedom Canadian]

I'm sorry, man. I'm sending ya a psychic awkward man hug.

Is this woman someone we know here at Kay's ?

[Squash Cop]

I'm sorry, man. I'm sending ya a psychic awkward man hug.Side hug?

Is this woman someone we know here at Kay's ?

Siezure Salad.

[Freedom Canadian]

Side hug?

Christian Side Hug !


Christian Side Hug !


Christian Side Hug !

Er....

I mean...

No.

:hug:

Siezure Salad.

Right.

:(

[Droid101]

Siezure Salad.http://constantcognizance.com/forums/images/smilies/misery.gif

Fuck.

[shiningbrow]

Some guy dumped me a long time ago and I was just sick. I got over it by swimming a mile a day and riding my bike 12 miles on top of that. Swimming is the best because you can pound and abuse water as much as you want and it just doesn't care. All the while you grow fit, stronger and better looking for the other ladies out there.

I'm really sorry to hear about this, but in the end, I suspect she is doing you a favor. There's nothing worse than being in a one-sided relationship. You deserve better and if you keep at it, you'll get it. I hope this period of suckiness is short. Feel better soon.

[Varaj]

You have my sympathy. It is never fun. :(

[Squash Cop]

http://constantcognizance.com/forums/images/smilies/misery.gif

Fuck.

Which brings us right back to the top of the thred, doesn't it?

[Name Lips]

The sad part is that it reduces the chances of me seeing more pics of her naked.


...unless of course it increases them.

[Squash Cop]

The sad part is that it reduces the chances of me seeing more pics of her naked.


...unless of course it increases them.

Actually, it's the dead desktop, laptop with a bad video card and the fact that I'm posting from my phone that reduces that. I do have a couple sets I never shared here, but now I can't even if I wanted to.

[Lady_Acoma]

I've been a fan of a bottle of tequila, rum, and some beer before passing out naked in the fetal position on the floor in my friends dining room after a break up. (apparently I still gamed very well through it all till we quit and I just gave up on consciousness)

Hate to hear it man. Here for you if you need anything.

[Lady Fury]

My thoughts are with you. I can't image the heartache you are feeling right now. :hug:

[Harry]

She wants to give the ring back.

Well shit, Squashie. I've known you both as a couple for pretty much as long as I've known you, so long I see you together when I picture you. I hope something can be worked out before the relationship is ended.

But if that's not in the stars, I support the Vermicious Knid option:

Hilarious

Get Dr. Midnight drunk and do him in the pooper, then email her the video. At the very least you won't be the only one feeling sad and awkward.

[Trainz]

Wow... I remember the night we spent together bud. You're a genuinely awesome person. I'm very, very sorry.

I wish you lived near so I could make this easier on you.

To be quite honest with you, you guys had what someone would call a weird arrangement (it didn't bother me), and I thought at times that it made for a shaky foundation... kept it for myself of course, didn't want to intrude.

Chin up dude, you're handsome and extremely interesting, and fun, and cool, you are more than just somebody's boyfriend.

[Ergeheilalt]

I got to pound out some frustration on a bent snowplow.

I hope that was euphemism for masturbation.

Good Luck squash man!

[Brynja]

Oh Sqush...

I am so sorry. Having gone through something likethis msyelf my heart goes out to the both of you


*hugs*

:comfort:

[Dr. Paragon]

http://constantcognizance.com/forums/images/smilies/misery.gif

Fuck.
Seconded.

:grey:

A few "Sabutai Tears" over here in cornland for you Sir.

[Dacke]

I'm so sorry for you.

::hugs::

[Northcott]

...I'm really not good with this comforting stuff. It's kind of awkward, and random words over the internet never really feel like enough, y'know? Still, I hope you pull out of the funk soon, and get on with things -- which isn't meant as a 'pull yourself up by the bootstrap' kind of comment, but rather "I hope you feel better soon".

That's a shit situation, man. All I can say is... shake it off. If you see yourself as a man of value, then the next realization should be that it's somebody else's loss, not yours. Which also means that it's likely to be some other girl's good fortune in the near future.

Feels like crap now, but you'll eventually be fine. Head up, eyes open, and good luck, man.

[Limper]

A chapter of your life is now closed. You can write the next ones however you want to.

This kind of thing is full of suck but how it effects you is really in your hands and I trust you will find a better path heading forward and have better results from what you've learned.

[Squash Cop]

Thanks for the kind words and thoughts everyone. My head feels fine this morning, but my eyes are a bit blurry.

[Brynja]

Squashie let me say- as i said earlier- having been here and done this-


it gets better. It is better for you both, look forward with new eyes, focus on what you want out of life thatyou may not have been getting. Relationships die or fade because one or both is not getting what they need or want. Good luck

[Janos]

More condolences. I hope eventually you can find the positive out of all this, and today, that you can just put it out of your mind.

And VK's suggestion is good too.

[seizure salad]

Hilarious

Get Dr. Midnight drunk and do him in the pooper, then email her the video. At the very least you won't be the only one feeling sad and awkward.
LOL. I know Midnight quite well- he'd never do it.

Sure? I'm trying to be; but no; we will talk more tonight. "The ball is in my court"; but That is part of the problem *sniff*

[Lady Fury]

I wish nothing but happiness for you SS and SC. I hope that you two can work it out but if you can't you both still have the support from us here at Kay's.

[Hatter]

What Mrs. Fury said.

[Snatch]

Aww man...sorry to here this.

[doc]

I've been a fan of a bottle of tequila, rum, and some beer before passing out naked in the fetal position on the floor in my friends dining room after a break up. (apparently I still gamed very well through it all till we quit and I just gave up on consciousness)

Hate to hear it man. Here for you if you need anything. Post Pics

Wow... I remember the night we spent together bud. You're a genuinely awesome person. I'm very, very sorry.

I wish you lived near so I could make this easier on you.

To be quite honest with you, you guys had what someone would call a weird arrangement (it didn't bother me), and I thought at times that it made for a shaky foundation... kept it for myself of course, didn't want to intrude.

Chin up dude, you're handsome and extremely interesting, and fun, and cool, you are more than just somebody's boyfriend. Trainz I know you mean well but that sounded kinda gay.

I like both of you so all I can say is stuff happens, meet at a nuetral location
and talk, maybe have spontanious sex, you might make up

[Northcott]

Thanks for the kind words and thoughts everyone. My head feels fine this morning, but my eyes are a bit blurry.

You're supposed to drink the booze, not pour it in your fucking eyes.

[doc]

Just get her[or him] drunk and screw till you can't walk, it might not fix the problems but it'll make for a more happy breakup

[The Winslow]

Trainz I know you mean well but that sounded kinda gay.

I like both of you so all I can say is stuff happens, meet at a nuetral location
and talk, maybe have spontanious sex, you might make up

When you say "both of you", you mean Squash and Salad, or Squash and Trainz? :befuddled:

[Trainz]

When you say "both of you", you mean Squash and Salad, or Squash and Trainz? :befuddled:

Squash and Trainz.

Ah but what an epic evening that was...

*sigh*

[doc]

Squash and Trainz.

Ah but what an epic evening that was...

*sigh*

Post pics

[Hatter]

Squash and Trainz.

Ah but what an epic evening that was...

*sigh*

:fap:

[Dawnstar]

I am so very sorry to hear this news. I hope you two are able to figure it out but if not, hugs to you both.

[Ancalagon]

wow, that's rough...

I don't know what to say besides obvious things like "best of luck" and "time can heal all wounds".

I find it very... scary (to be frank) to see relationships that were going well fail a few years later :(

[Droid101]

I find it very... scary (to be frank) to see relationships that were going well fail a few years later :(

Nobody can predict the future.

People change.

People become blasé.

There's a billion reasons why something that was once a good relationship can fail.

[cnath.rm]

There's a billion reasons why something that was once a good relationship can fail.and 99% of them don't even include eyeliner... :grey:


SC and SS, no matter how it works out or doesn't, all the best to you both, hopefully you can stick around Kays so we can continue to enjoy both of your thoughts and wisdom.

[Name Lips]

You both deserve your happiness. If not together, then apart.

[Lady_Acoma]

I've been a fan of a bottle of tequila, rum, and some beer before passing out naked in the fetal position on the floor in my friends dining room after a break up.

Post Pics

Can't new relationship starting... Nudity will be reserved for her for an undetermined amount of time.

[Space Cadet B^3]

Love you both. Tis the heartache season.

Surprisingly, watching an elementary kids holiday concert last night gave some perspective.

*shrug*

[Brynja]

Not to get off topicbut are things ok with you and your ladyfriend?

[Space Cadet B^3]

Not to get off topicbut are things ok with you and your ladyfriend?
Mainly just what many of you warned me about coming to pass. We did have an affair, I saw the precipice my heart dangled over & decided I needed to back off to save myself.

It's been painful, exacerbated by some jealousy on her part because I'm hanging out with mutual friends instead of being with her and her kids, but, ultimately I've have given her and them everything, I don't see how it's wrong to protect myself and be off doing non-kid-friendly activities when I don't have kids.

She can't have it both ways and I can't continue to be a quiet jellyfish. :)

[Brynja]

Bravo :)

[Droid101]

She can't have it both ways and I can't continue to be a quiet jellyfish. :)

:boggle:

[AZRogue]

I'm sorry for you both. I hope things work out, or at least that you both can find some happiness.

It must be in the air or something. Not to go off on a side topic, but my girlfriend, whom I've been with for years and years, told me this last weekend that she was interested in some other guy, has been "kissing" him while I've been at work, which translates in pussy-speak to "fucking", so wanted to put things on hold for a while but not end anything because "it might not work anyway."

Fuck that.

I ended it on the spot and haven't returned her calls. I think I'm a bit in a daze and numb, as I don't feel as bad as I think I should but I feel like I could easily begin to feel that bad. Soooooooo, yeah. It sucks balls. A lot.

[Hatter]

I'm sorry for you both. I hope things work out, or at least that you both can find some happiness.

It must be in the air or something. Not to go off on a side topic, but my girlfriend, whom I've been with for years and years, told me this last weekend that she was interested in some other guy, has been "kissing" him while I've been at work, which translates in pussy-speak to "fucking", so wanted to put things on hold for a while but not end anything because "it might not work anyway."

Fuck that.

I ended it on the spot and haven't returned her calls. I think I'm a bit in a daze and numb, as I don't feel as bad as I think I should but I feel like I could easily begin to feel that bad. Soooooooo, yeah. It sucks balls. A lot.

Whoa. WTF is up with that? "Hey, I'm interested in someone else, but since I don't feel as though this emasculates you enough I'm going to tell you to hold on while I see if he's really better. kthx!"

I'd have dumped her there too, that is some bullshit.

[Cat's Paw Nebula]

Whoa. WTF is up with that? "Hey, I'm interested in someone else, but since I don't feel as though this emasculates you enough I'm going to tell you to hold on while I see if he's really better. kthx!"

I'd have dumped her there too, that is some bullshit.
Thirded. Sorry you had to put the stop to a long-term deal, but you can do better than someone who thinks that shit would actually work.

[Cat's Paw Nebula]

You both deserve your happiness. If not together, then apart.
Also echoing this. I've liked both SS and SC and hope that they both retain rights to the local playground that is KT.

[Black Angel]

I can't think of much original to add here. Just thinking of you all (since there seem to be a few break-up stories here now!), and wishing the best for everyone.

[Northcott]

I ended it on the spot and haven't returned her calls. I think I'm a bit in a daze and numb, as I don't feel as bad as I think I should but I feel like I could easily begin to feel that bad. Soooooooo, yeah. It sucks balls. A lot.

WHAT THE FUCK?!? Bro... :( That's shit, man. You did the right thing. What the fuck is wrong with that woman? Dude, you're better off without that. Anybody who's that fucking blind to the dignity of somebody they're supposed to care about isn't worth having in your life. Jesus Christ.

Maybe you're not feeling bad because you got away from that. Shit. If the snow weren't innately repulsive to you, I'd suggest you come around and have a whiskey or two.

[Lady_Acoma]

I suggest you come around here, we have snow, but if I give you enough whiskey you won't notice it at all.

[Schizm]

psh. IF he wants snow and whiskey, he can get that a shitload closer than either of you. ;p

[Northcott]

My whiskey is superior. PLUS! Then he and I can further plot our libertarian commune that will eventually be raided by government agents.

[Lady_Acoma]

I have tits. :boobies:

[bunny]

I have tits. :boobies:

Pssht, I got the tits and the Oban.


--Posting drunk Spikey

[BOZ]

Sucks, man. :( I'm going through some rough times myself, so I can semi-empathize.

[Trainz]

Sucks, man. :( I'm going through some rough times myself, so I can semi-empathize.

Oh... it's not about your wife, is it?

:(

[Name Lips]

Holy crap it's spreading... :eek:

[Lady Fury]

I posted a question in your birthday thread before I read this thread. Feel free to ignore the question BOZ. I hope things get better for you soon. :hug:

[Lady_Acoma]

Pssht, I got the tits and the Oban.


--Posting drunk Spikey

Pretty sure you have better tits too. You win. :unworthy:

[Space Cadet B^3]

Seems to be a lot of personal transformations going on in my circles too, makes me wish I had some tarot cards for a reading.

[Name Lips]

Pretty sure you have better tits too. You win. :unworthy:

Pretty sure? That sounds too subjective. This is clearly a job for SCIENCE!

[BOZ]

Oh... it's not about your wife, is it?

:(

I don't want to bogart this thread too much, but I'll just say that it turns out that she had an undiagnosed emotional disorder which has caused a ton of stress between us - hopefully now that we know what was wrong, treatment will help put things back to right.

[bunny]

Pretty sure you have better tits too. You win. :unworthy:

Can't we just agree that all tits are great :)

Seems to be a lot of personal transformations going on in my circles too, makes me wish I had some tarot cards for a reading.

In my late teens/early twenties I found that the holidays/new years tended to be the time of the heaviest relationship upheaval, followed by a flurry of hook ups around St. Valentines day. I'd imagine that this trend settles down some what as people get older.

[Northcott]

I have tits. :boobies:

The value of tits is reduced when said tits are restricted to another gender for adoration.

I also discovered many years ago that women's heads are turned almost as effectively by a well-constructed chest.

[Brynja]

I also discovered many years ago that women's heads are turned almost as effectively by a well-constructed chest.

QFMFT

[Lady_Acoma]

The value of tits is reduced when said tits are restricted to another gender for adoration.

I also discovered many years ago that women's heads are turned almost as effectively by a well-constructed chest.

Mine are. But hell I remember being a kid and figuring out the code for nice tits between my parents was big beautiful blue eyes and mom would point them out more then dad. I took advantage of this knowledge from an early age.

[Northcott]

Heh! I was thinking more of the drool fest that ensued at theatres across the world when Gerard Butler got buff for 300. And similar incidents. I've noticed that a lot of women check out the eyes, the chest, and the ass... not necessarily in that order.

Probably best for another thread, come to think of it. Unsuitable hijack for this one.

[Name Lips]

To be fair, I read a study once where they tracked the eye movements of men and women when they were shown photographs, and men glanced at men's crotches more than women did.

It might not be homosexuality in action so much as it might be sizing up the competition. Or maybe it's both.

[Northcott]

Sizing up teh mancock: You're either gay, or debating whether or not you have to kill him.

[shiningbrow]

Whoa. WTF is up with that? "Hey, I'm interested in someone else, but since I don't feel as though this emasculates you enough I'm going to tell you to hold on while I see if he's really better. kthx!"

I'd have dumped her there too, that is some bullshit.

I agree with Hatter. She's not into you but is too much a coward to end it. You did exactly the right thing, AZ. Move on. There's plenty of other women who will be willing to replace her.

Boz, I hope things get sorted with your wife, now that she's getting treated for the disorder.

Lady Acoma, how does one determine quality in breasts? I'd suspect there's a whole mess of subjectivity there. Leave it to Name Lips to devise scientific criteria, but at the end of the day, in the standoff between science and tits, I'd say tits will win out.

[Droid101]

Lady Acoma, how does one determine quality in breasts? I'd suspect there's a whole mess of subjectivity there. Leave it to Name Lips to devise scientific criteria, but at the end of the day, in the standoff between science and tits, I'd say tits will win out.

Size, firmness, suppleness, nipple size/shape, etc.

And then you get down to personal preferences...

This is complicated.

[Lady_Acoma]

Gotta agree with Droid. I have seen some that I really didn't want to. I don't care if you are shrinking from the label of being shallow or whatever. There are some that I just don't want to see and I like a very diverse range of things. Breasts are even frankly my thing. Not that I am not very fond of them and playing with them, who isn't? But yeah.

[BOZ]

Boobies!

Who isn't fond of them?

I'm very fondle of them.

[Droid101]

I don't care if you are shrinking from the label of being shallow or whatever.

Don't fight it. Succumb to the shallow!

[Lady_Acoma]

I am benefiting from the it seems like I am shallow even though that wasn't the intent kind of thing right now. I rather like embracing it.

[Varaj]

Deep down inside I'm a shallow guy.

[Northcott]

We're animals. Despite what pretentious claptrap some fuckwits espouse, we're goddamned fucking animals. We respond to certain stimuli. Some people love to point out that said stimuli has varied widely throughout history and across cultures... this is true to an extent, but it's usually raised as a strawman kind of issue and a weak-ass defence when examined closely. There are statues thousands of years old that show our ancestors had much the same tastes as we do; certain hip to waist ratios are hot; perky breasts are hot; trim, strong bodies are hot; a certain level of muscle and/or fitness is hot. People generally don't respond well, visually speaking, to age or infirmity. In the end, there's a nasty little animal in all of us that wants to copulate with the most genetically superior specimen we can get our hands on.

There's nothing wrong with that. People have been wanking to idealized imagery for as long as we've been able to use our imaginations. Fuck guilt. 'Shallow' only applies if you're stupid or weak enough to let that be the absolute extent of your desires.

And if you happen to bag the ultra-hot specimen that's also intelligent, well-spoken, strong-willed, and wild in bed? More power to you. Post pictures and we'll all applaud. :D (Enter joke about the sound of one hand clapping)

[Name Lips]

You know Northcott, you have absolutely beautiful big blue eyes.

[Northcott]

Fuckin' straight, I do!

[Space Cadet B^3]

I think the worst part about my deal, is no one in my circle of friends here knows the depth the relationship was, so I'm sure they think I'm in a funk over an unrequited love, and don't know that it wasn't one-sided.

Oh and Northcott, it's all about the chin, baby.

[seizure salad]

Hi guys, so here it is christmas eve. To those that celebrate 'happy holly day!' Last wk it 'fealt' official to change my facebook status to single. I cried; a lot.
For the last ten years I have preferred the company of seths family to mine, it feels alien to not be joining them this week. I made gluten free brownies for him & fam; and he stopped by w presents from his mom & him. I cried @ receiving a matching bowl to the bowlplate he gave me for our anniv on summer solstice.
I have not given up on the hope that one day my best friend might be able to eventually be a/my partner.I love him dearly. 7yrs ago we joked 'boobies now, mental health later.' It is currently more appropriate to say 'mental health now, boobies later.'
This year for xmas I am grimly going to my parents for brunch *bangs head on wall* and a few friends ar coming to my place for dinner. It is a good thing to see these friends; they are in a support group of young adults w various mental/physical disabilities all trying to become healthy independant adults. My growth in this process is what gave me the strength to end my relationship with squashy as it was.
As I said; I hope everyone has a lovely hollyday, hugs to all the tastrophy recruits.

[Trainz]

Honestly, I feel for you. But at the same time, I hope you and Squash can find a semblance of normal life.

You both are going to hate me for what I'm about to say, but I met you in real life, and you were both genuine nice folks, so I feel I have to say this:

What you were living was real good times, and those are few and far between, but now that you both moved on, it's time to grow the hell up. Who am I to pretend to know what's good for you all? You're right, I'm nobody, but that's the advice you're getting from me.

I guess what I'm trying to say is take a step back, think, think a whole fucking lot, and go on with your lives.

A love you both, and I only wish the best for both of you.

:o