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Edena_of_Neith
11-28-2009, 10:39 AM
From Edena_of_Neith, to everyone:

Ten years ago, at the behest of my mother, and in agreement with her, I took out a $700,000 life insurance policy on her. At that time, mother was 72, and the policy was good for 10 years.

3 years later, when my family turned on mother, I had the perfect chance to collect.
Mother was alone, abandoned, in a filthy motel in Michigan, sick, without a car and nobody to help her. It was the dead of winter, and a winter blast was raging in Michigan. Mother was distraught on the phone, distraught and at the end of her wits.
I was in Florida. I drove from Florida to Michigan without stopping, 23 hours on the road. I went to that motel, I got my mother to a warm place, I spent my money to take her to safety and warmth and comfort. I got her out of that situation. I saved her life.

4 years after that, mother had a quadruple bypass. Afterwards, I was her only real caregiver.
Repeated trips to the hospital ER were necessary. I was the only one who knew how to drive on the freeway at this point. My parents had not done so in years. The stretch of I-75 between here and the hospital is deadly. The surface roads are insane.
One night, at 4 in the morning, mother came to me. She needed to go to the ER right then.
I had had only 30 minutes of sleep. Mother offered to let father drive. Father - who suffers from dementia - insisted on driving. Father was mostly asleep. It was the morning rush hour, to boot.
Had father driven, both he and mother would have crashed on those roads, and mother - in her shape - would have died. I would have collected the cash.
I got my butt up. I drove that 40 miles. I protected my mother.

I brought mother back from where the surgery sent her. I walked 250 miles with her. I forced her to breathe on the Breather. I talked her mind into coming back. I fought the Florida medical profession that wanted to keep her on drugs that would have made her a permanent vegetable. I won. Mother came back fully.

Now, the life insurance has just expired. Completely.
Guess what? I just threw away THREE QUARTERS OF A MILLION DOLLARS. Gone. Zip. Over with!

I face a life of poverty now, with no job, unemployable, crippled, no family, no nothing. I don't expect to live very long, to be frank.

But I have earned the right to be called a Hero.

Edena_of_Neith

Edena_of_Neith
11-28-2009, 11:02 PM
Didn't mean to freak anyone out, there ...

Lady Fury
11-28-2009, 11:17 PM
I don't think you freaked anyone out Edena. It's a Saturday and there are rarely any people around until Monday.

I want to say what you did for your mother is noble and I know that I'd be proud to have a son like you. Money isn't everything but you know that. You're a good man and your heart has always been in the right place. Poverty sucks. I'm right there with you right now. But one thing I do know for certain is that life is always changing and things you don't see now may change your life in the future for the better. I understand your frustration with the life insurance money but I'm sure you'd rather have your mother around then have that money right now. Am I right on that?

Edena_of_Neith
11-28-2009, 11:18 PM
I don't think you freaked anyone out Edena. It's a Saturday and there are rarely any people around until Monday.

I want to say what you did for your mother is noble and I know that I'd be proud to have a son like you. Money isn't everything but you know that. You're a good man and your heart has always been in the right place. Poverty sucks. I'm right there with you right now. But one thing I do know for certain is that life is always changing and things you don't see now may change your life in the future for the better. I understand your frustration with the life insurance money but I'm sure you'd rather have your mother around then have that money right now. Am I right on that?

Yes.

Thank you for the compliments, Lady Fury. I appreciate them.

EDIT:

You must understand something.
I was exhausted. I have Sleep Disorder, and on 30 minutes of sleep, I was in real trouble. Actual, real trouble.
Mother, who at that time - post surgery - was not in her right mind, and trying to accommodate me, asked me to let father drive. Father was asleep, and he would have had to have been forcibly awakened, to take her. He had had very little sleep either.
Also, father was 82 years old. He was partially blind, mostly deaf, and suffered from disorientation even during the day. It was night, going on early morning. (They only gave him a driver's licence renewal because a friendly physician vouched for him, and he had agreed to drive only during the day.)
There was heavy early morning rush hour traffic, and the freeway was under construction in addition.

In short, all I had to do, was go back to sleep. To do nothing. To let my mother, have her request fulfilled. It was handed to me on a golden platter, that three-quarters of a million dollars.
In the REAL WORLD, as you well know, people have this bad tendency to choose the Cash, regardless of how noble or lofty they pretend to be. We all know that. We might wish it otherwise, but that's how it is.

I decided to stand outside of Reality, on this one. (Then again, haven't I always stood outside of Reality, and hasn't everyone always noted this?)
I decided not to subscribe to Reality. I went my own way.
I said No to the Cash, when it was offered to me on a Golden Platter. I said Yes to my Mother's Life.

I'm glad I did.

Edena_of_Neith

Edena_of_Neith
11-29-2009, 02:14 AM
Ah me ...

Ask any Trucker what it is like to drive long distances.
Try driving from Orlando to Detroit without stopping and without any help. Especially when you have serious physical health problems.

Mother was distraught, hysterical. Due to the war in my family, she had fled her home and was out in the cold. She was at a crummy motel, filled with prostitutes (I know the area.)
Mother was physically ill. She told me so. She had taken our dog, and was trying to take care of him.
The rental car had broken down. The rental company, apparently, was going to do nothing about it. For all I knew, it would be a week before mother had a car.
A winter windstorm was blowing. The temperature, I saw on the weather channel, up there was about 15 degrees, with a wind chill well below 0.
Mother had to walk out into that, to even take the dog out to the bathroom. She had to walk to a restaurant - normally not any big deal, but a very big deal when you are 75 and ill, and winter is roaring, and you are hysterical.
I thought my mother was going to die, if I did not help. Nobody else in my family was going to help. Mother had no help from friends. Mother, sounded like she was incapable of making a rational decision of any sort.
I thought she was going to die of pneumonia.

I do not know how I survived that 1,300 mile trip. I was dying by the time I got to Ohio. Outside Dayton, I made an attempt to go on, drinking three huge cups of strong coffee. Somehow, I made it up the rest of that road. 23 hours. Then, at the end of it, I couldn't rest. I had to get mother to a good hotel, a warm hotel. And that is what I did. Then, I could rest.

Name Lips
11-29-2009, 02:37 AM
You're a rare man, Edena.

Pigs in Space
11-29-2009, 04:40 PM
Are you saying you could have let your mother die, and you would have got 700k?

That kind of money won't buy you being able to look yourself in the mirror every morning.

Dawnstar
11-30-2009, 11:49 AM
Are you saying you could have let your mother die, and you would have got 700k?

That kind of money won't buy you being able to look yourself in the mirror every morning.

I completely agree with this. You did the right thing. Yes money is nice but I know I would give up money to have more time with my mother (if that was ever the case for me)

Droid101
11-30-2009, 02:15 PM
Real-life Edena_of_Neith is a 190th level super-guy.

Ergeheilalt
11-30-2009, 09:55 PM
Real-life Edena_of_Neith is a 190th level super-guy.

Only if you're using inferior 4e rules. Back in 2e, he'd be 212.

shiningbrow
11-30-2009, 10:40 PM
Edena, I'm sure you did the right thing for the right reasons. When my parents died, they left us this house full of stuff. It had some value, not lots, but I still feel like I'd give every bit of it back and live hand to mouth if it meant I'd have another afternoon with them.

The Theocrat of Poon-Tang
12-02-2009, 09:06 AM
Keep plugging away, Edena. You did a good thing. Call it Karma, or God watching over you, but if you keep trying life may give you a bit of a break when you least expect it.

Dr. Paragon
12-03-2009, 02:11 AM
Didn't we go over this story about a year or two ago?

I just want to make sure that the situation didn't happen again.

Edena_of_Neith
12-03-2009, 03:28 AM
Didn't we go over this story about a year or two ago?

I just want to make sure that the situation didn't happen again.

No, we did not.
The Life Insurance, just expired.