So... what's your kink?

[Lisa Nadazdy]

I'm curious to find out what kinks people have "under the hood", so to speak. Also, while we're on the subject, what do you consider acceptable, and what kinks are out of bounds?

So, fess up- what gets your motor runnin'? :eyebrows:

[mollygrue]

brain candy----i like em smart, really really smart.
and funny--i find a sense of humour a real turn on.

[Pigs in Space]

I like womens hair a lot.

I don't mean groin-forests, I mean head heair.

[Brynja]

I'm curious to find out what kinks people have "under the hood", so to speak. Also, while we're on the subject, what do you consider acceptable, and what kinks are out of bounds?

So, fess up- what gets your motor runnin'? :eyebrows:


How about you first?

*looks around nervously for Crypt King*

[Brynja]

I like womens hair a lot.

I don't mean groin-forests, I mean head heair.



*LOL* groin forests!!

[Limper]

I have to say I'm a generalist. There is no one thing that really trips my trigger.

[Brynja]

Like molly teh smart gets me going and it is the sort of going that is sustainable. Handsome only goes so far, so does funny or charm but smart. Instant pantyremover (as long I personally dont find them repulsive otherwise)

[Glass]

Smart's a must, geek's a plus, and cuddliness is great.

I like a bit of pain, both giving and receiving. I've got a bunch of toys, floggers and evil sticks that my girlfriend likes when I use on her, and I love getting scratched and bitten during sex, maybe a little too much(I've got a few small scars on my back from fingernails).

Also, in the context of D/s, I like brattiness. "Make me!" is a lot more fun than "yes sir".

[Lisa Nadazdy]

Well, I'm attracted to the super-intelligent sort. Looks really don't do it for me. I hate idiots, and looks, well... eventually they go as you get older.

I'm more curious as to the strange. We all know that Anc has a thing for latex and rubber, but I'm curious as to what odd things you like. I'll admit I have a couple kinks I like to keep secret, and maybe I'll admit them in this thread, but I'd like to be coy right now and see what cards other people have in their hand. :D

[FeatsofClay]

do groups count as strange? I like groups. Heaping mounds of flesh, grunting and writhing.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

do groups count as strange? I like groups. Heaping mounds of flesh, grunting and writhing.

No, that's fine. Go on...


Lisa scribbles down some notes.:clipboard:

[Varaj]

Are we talking raw sex acts that really get me going? If so then forced oral (giving or receiving) is pretty high up on my list.
Large insertion is another one right up there.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

Are we talking raw sex acts that really get me going? If so then forced oral (giving or receiving) is pretty high up on my list.
Large insertion is another one right up there.

It can be, but doesn't have to. There's no hard rule to what turns you on.

[azrael]

definitely a fan of both choking, and being choked....

probably a couple of times I should have cleared that one first...

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[Space Cadet B^3]

Talk nerdy to me... (just bought that shirt :D ) I too like the smart women...

Otherwise, I think I'm pretty vanilla, although I'm willing to do for others just to please. I have an ex who liked being spanked. So I did it and let me tell you she fucked the hell out of me afterwards, so I'm down with pretty much whatever at least once.

[Varaj]

It can be, but doesn't have to. There's no hard rule to what turns you on.

There is a difference in what turns me on in a person and what turns me on in an act. :)

[Keeper of Secrets]

It can be, but doesn't have to. There's no hard rule to what turns you on.

Tee-hee-hee

[Lisa Nadazdy]

Tee-hee-hee

Which one of you let Beavis in here?:shiftyeyes:

[Hatter]

I'm big into the emotional intimacy thing. It's kind of a cop-out answer though. I'm turned on the most when I feel safe enough to allow that kind of vulnerability.

[Dr. Paragon]

Blood lust.
Seriously.

[mollygrue]

Clarification on the earlier "i like em smart" post---not talking about what i find attractive in a man, am talking about what gets me going.

Always had that problem--smart guys draw me in like a moth to the flame--just cant keep away. ( have to be mighty careful about that "fine line betwen genius and madness" issue tho.)

age, appearance, income, background--none of that matters ( tho i try to avoid the howard-hughes-in-his-recluse years type): they need to be smart, and they have to have sense of humor. biting and clawing a definite plus, but not required. additional interests subject to consideration and review.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

Wait... I know what mollygrue's secret is... she's a brain-eating zombie!!!:mind-blowing:

[mollygrue]

got it in one!

ask java when she passes through about my history with " brain candy" she will laugh her skinny little ass off.

it was her idea to make the amusement park style sign : you must be this smart (iq line indicated) to ride.......

[Janos]

Physical traits: Eyes, physical agility, flat soft stomachs (not so much muscular ones), silky skin, sculped legs

During the act (and done to my partner): Spanking, Coercion, Restraint, Control fantasies, Exhibitionism

[Ancalagon]

I'm more curious as to the strange. We all know that Anc has a thing for latex and rubber, but I'm curious as to what odd things you like. I'll admit I have a couple kinks I like to keep secret, and maybe I'll admit them in this thread, but I'd like to be coy right now and see what cards other people have in their hand. :D

WHO TOLD YOU!?!?!

oh yeah...

eh, I've said enough over the years, no need to make the molehill into a bigger mountain than it already is.

[Steampunk]

Here lately (in the last two years or so) I have found women wearing heavy eye-liner seems to get me really going. Also recent in development has been goth chicks. And nuns.

As long as a kink does not involve human waste products, then I am cannot think of anything off the top of my head that I would not at least try. I am sure there is something out there, but what at the moment defies me.

[Cat of Ulthar]

it was her idea to make the amusement park style sign : you must be this smart (iq line indicated) to ride.......

I so am making that into a t-shirt.;) That's a great line.

[Keeper of Secrets]

Here lately (in the last two years or so) I have found women wearing heavy eye-liner seems to get me really going. Also recent in development has been goth chicks. And nuns.

As long as a kink does not involve human waste products, then I am cannot think of anything off the top of my head that I would not at least try. I am sure there is something out there, but what at the moment defies me.

Nuns? How interesting. Are you Catholic, by chance? If not, it is even more interesting.

[Darth Flatulent]

Here lately (in the last two years or so) I have found men wearing heavy eye-liner seems to get me really going.

Run Droid, Run!

[Harry]

Two things in particular:

Good legs and an impressive schnozz. Everything else is negotiable.

nibble nibble

[Steampunk]

Nuns? How interesting. Are you Catholic, by chance? If not, it is even more interesting.

Nope, not a Catholic. The few people who know about it also had the same reaction you did. I cannot explain it!

[mollygrue]

I so am making that into a t-shirt.;) That's a great line.
Please feel free to use the line --but if you do--please make me a shirt too!

[Cat of Ulthar]

Two things in particular:

Good legs and an impressive schnozz. Everything else is negotiable.

nibble nibble

Do I want to know what a schnozz is?

[Janos]

Do I want to know what a schnozz is?

This

[Cat of Ulthar]

Ah! You'd like me then Harry.:D

[Ancalagon]

Nope, not a Catholic. The few people who know about it also had the same reaction you did. I cannot explain it!

real nuns or fetish nuns?

Cause one of them is freaky.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

I've seen photos of a latex nun. >.>

[Keeper of Secrets]

real nuns or fetish nuns?

Cause one of them is freaky.


I seem to recall YOU had a thing for nuns. ;)

j/k

[Keeper of Secrets]

I've seen photos of a latex nun. >.>

Lisa, did you ever consider being a nun?

[Steampunk]

real nuns or fetish nuns?

Cause one of them is freaky.

Heh.

I guess it would have to be fetish nuns, since the normal Catholic nun does not convey hotness like a woman dressed up in a revealing habit wanting to be "punished for her sins"....




What?

[Ancalagon]

I seem to recall YOU had a thing for nuns. ;)

j/k

Actually, you made me think of something...

A lot of fetishists have one main thing that "drives them". However, you can also acquire "secondary fetishes" through exposure.

For example, the first times I saw a picture of a latex nun, I was like "that's kinda... odd". But a part of my brain was going "dude, that's a hot woman in latex, that's HOT!!!". I can't say that I have a fetish for nuns, but I do appreciate those images now. However, there are other things that are associated with latex that I definitely have developed a fetish for. High heel boots for example (on a woman, not wearing them).

This is one reason that for me, I have to be careful in a way - I don't want to develop a fetish for something that's wrong or dangerous. I think my brain was (and still is) vulnerable to fetishism, and that's probably biological (why are so many geeks kinky? because kink and geekhood have the same root: obsession). However, the OBJECT of the fetish isn't biological - it's partially cultural/environmental, it's partially random. And I feel very fortunate my kink is so... benign. I have an acquaintances who's big kink is "adult baby". He likes wearing diapers and being treated like a baby. Thank you black karate mama jesus that I'm not stuck with that!

Ancalagon

[Cat of Ulthar]

And I feel very fortunate my kink is so... benign. I have an acquaintances who's big kink is "adult baby". He likes wearing diapers and being treated like a baby. Thank you black karate mama jesus that I'm not stuck with that!

No shit. I hope with all hope in my heart that I will never experience that moment with a new lover where you are discussing fantasies and kinks with him saying he wants to be put in diapers and call me mummy. I wonder how fast infatuation can flee. Ew. No disrespect to your acquaintance, but... Ew.

[Keeper of Secrets]

Actually, you made me think of something...

A lot of fetishists have one main thing that "drives them". However, you can also acquire "secondary fetishes" through exposure.

For example, the first times I saw a picture of a latex nun, I was like "that's kinda... odd". But a part of my brain was going "dude, that's a hot woman in latex, that's HOT!!!". I can't say that I have a fetish for nuns, but I do appreciate those images now. However, there are other things that are associated with latex that I definitely have developed a fetish for. High heel boots for example (on a woman, not wearing them).

This is one reason that for me, I have to be careful in a way - I don't want to develop a fetish for something that's wrong or dangerous. I think my brain was (and still is) vulnerable to fetishism, and that's probably biological (why are so many geeks kinky? because kink and geekhood have the same root: obsession). However, the OBJECT of the fetish isn't biological - it's partially cultural/environmental, it's partially random. And I feel very fortunate my kink is so... benign. I have an acquaintances who's big kink is "adult baby". He likes wearing diapers and being treated like a baby. Thank you black karate mama jesus that I'm not stuck with that!

Ancalagon

Much as the baby thing does not appeal to me - and frankly makes me a little queasy - I guess in the greater scheme of things its probably no more unhealthy than a lot of other things.

Most of which I like!

[Ancalagon]

I spoke to him a lot - he's a very decent person. I'm not in his shoes, but while I agree with you it might not be unhealthy per say, it's a very heavy burden on this shoulders. First it's very, very misunderstood. In Montreal (ah, Montreal, how I love thee) a "club" for people with this fetish was open, and the general population reacted with outrage - they couldn't distinguish this kink from pedophilia, even though it's not the same thing *at all* (Montreal still has a way to go).

Because of this confusion, he could get fired from his job as he sometimes has contact with kids. It's also hard for him to get his partner to participate, as it's so... strange and queasy. He comes to the local club from time to time, (and now I'm speculating) not because he gets to "play" or has any hope of finding someone into it, but rather because he needs to go somewhere where he will be accepted.

so I agree with you on the unhealthy aspect - it just seems extremely difficult to live with. And yet, he's happier now that he has accepted who he is than when he tried to fight it.

Ancalagon

[Janos]

An old friend's ex-husband had an infantism kink, and it was one of the main factors in their eventual divorce. That plus trying to explain in their small town why she was buying Depends a lot.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

This will probably come as shock to many, but I'm an infantilist, myself. For the record, it isn't really a sexual thing; it has a lot to do with the abuse I suffered when I was very little. I had a hard time coming to terms with it- I discussed it with psychologists and shrinks, and they come to the conclusion that I was forced to grow up way to fast, and that I'm trying to reconnect to a childhood I never really had. All I really know is, when I'm stressed, I sleep better in diapers, or at least a pacifier (I grind my teeth). Weird enough for you? I keep it very low-key, and damned few know about it; Anna knows, but she doesn't care; she tells me it makes her feel more maternal. I get to feeling really small and the world feels out of control, and I can't cope and I retreat.

For the record, I'm not into scat or watersports. At all. Ick. Nor am I some kind of pedo. I really don't like kids; they remind me of how cruel my peers were to me when I was younger.

As for the sexual, I like latex and rubber, although not as much as some. I'm not into pain or humiliation (I've had too much of that in real life). I honestly don't have very many real kinks, as I'm not really very sexual. Aside from that big weirdness above, I'm actually pretty boring.


So now you know something about me you didn't know before. I hope it doesn't squick you too much.

[Keeper of Secrets]

This will probably come as shock to many, but I'm an infantilist, myself. For the record, it isn't really a sexual thing; it has a lot to do with the abuse I suffered when I was very little. I had a hard time coming to terms with it- I discussed it with psychologists and shrinks, and they come to the conclusion that I was forced to grow up way to fast, and that I'm trying to reconnect to a childhood I never really had. All I really know is, when I'm stressed, I sleep better in diapers, or at least a pacifier (I grind my teeth). Weird enough for you? I keep it very low-key, and damned few know about it; Anna knows, but she doesn't care; she tells me it makes her feel more maternal. I get to feeling really small and the world feels out of control, and I can't cope and I retreat.

For the record, I'm not into scat or watersports. At all. Ick. Nor am I some kind of pedo. I really don't like kids; they remind me of how cruel my peers were to me when I was younger.


As for the sexual, I like latex and rubber, although not as much as some. I'm not into pain or humiliation (I've had too much of that in real life). I honestly don't have very many real kinks, as I'm not really very sexual. Aside from that big weirdness above, I'm actually pretty boring.


So now you know something about me you didn't know before. I hope it doesn't squick you too much.


Wow. I never knew this about you. I mean, I don't have much to add other than being appreciative that you trusted us enough to share this type of thing with us.

Now, when you say 'infantilist' I assume this is just an approach or a state of mind. I don't assume you wear diapers.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

Wow. I never knew this about you. I mean, I don't have much to add other than being appreciative that you trusted us enough to share this type of thing with us.

Now, when you say 'infantilist' I assume this is just an approach or a state of mind. I don't assume you wear diapers.

Not normally, no. I have in the past, however. When I'm not feeling well, I sleep better in them. Strange but true.

[Keeper of Secrets]

Not normally, no. I have in the past, however. When I'm not feeling well, I sleep better in them. Strange but true.

But is that for health reasons or for something else?

I don't mean for any of this to be disrespectful, incidentally.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

But is that for health reasons or for something else?

I don't mean for any of this to be disrespectful, incidentally.

Most psychological. I won't get into it much further than that, suffice to say, I have nightmares frequently enough that... erm... I end up using the diapers when I sleep (very infrequently- but it's happened).

[Keeper of Secrets]

Most psychological. I won't get into it much further than that, suffice to say, I have nightmares frequently enough that... erm... I end up using the diapers when I sleep (very infrequently- but it's happened).

Oh, OK. I understand. However, I won't pry much more.

[shabois]

I think it is very cool that everyone has been so open with sharing! :)

I am not very adventurous at this point in my life which is not to say I am old, but I like the old cliché was more adventurous in my college days. Not crazy golden shower adventurous, just the standard American Pie zaniness. I am not kinky in bed but I do prefer a woman who takes charge and is very vocal in bed. I guess I see that as a sign of confidence in a woman, with herself and her body. I find that a turn on in and out of bed.

[Ancalagon]

There is an aspect about fetishes - those that are deep seated - that aren't "just" sexual. I have had some bondage/sensory deprivation experience that were much more spiritual than sexual. It's hard to explain, I'm not sure I have the right words for it.

[Keeper of Secrets]

. . . sensory deprivation . . .

Ya know, I have an idea for a supers villain that uses this as their mode of torture. ;)

[shabois]

Ya know, I have an idea for a supers villain that uses this as their mode of torture. ;)

Oh Shit!!! I better get my sensory powers in order quick!:D

[Harry]

Ah! You'd like me then Harry.:D

:whiteflag:

[doc]

Do you REALLY want to know ?

[Varaj]

Do you REALLY want to know ?


Cyber sex with people you hope are woman? :D

Yes we do.

[Cat of Ulthar]

This will probably come as shock to many, but I'm an infantilist, myself. For the record, it isn't really a sexual thing; it has a lot to do with the abuse I suffered when I was very little. I had a hard time coming to terms with it- I discussed it with psychologists and shrinks, and they come to the conclusion that I was forced to grow up way to fast, and that I'm trying to reconnect to a childhood I never really had. All I really know is, when I'm stressed, I sleep better in diapers, or at least a pacifier (I grind my teeth). Weird enough for you? I keep it very low-key, and damned few know about it; Anna knows, but she doesn't care; she tells me it makes her feel more maternal. I get to feeling really small and the world feels out of control, and I can't cope and I retreat.

OK, this makes more sense than it being a sexual thing to me. I can imagine feeling very small and vulnerable and wanting to retreat to a safe childhood, especially when you have not had one.

Thanks for mentioning this, it broadened my world view another little bit.

[Edena_of_Neith]

I have never had sex, so I cannot really give an answer. But, I will anyways ...

Kissing and french kissing.
The idea of holding a warm, loving girl against me while I french kiss her, then dip her and kiss her more deeply yet, is a pleasant thought.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

OK, this makes more sense than it being a sexual thing to me. I can imagine feeling very small and vulnerable and wanting to retreat to a safe childhood, especially when you have not had one.

Thanks for mentioning this, it broadened my world view another little bit.

You're welcome. I'll admit, I was highly reluctant to share it, considering it hits many people's 'squick' factor, but I thinks it's something that people don't really understand, where it's easy to get the wrong idea what it's about. In a day and age where people scream loudly "think of the children!", any aspect of life which has traditionally been the province of children is considered horribly wrong for adults to intrude on. For a long time (even when I was a kid), the idea of adults playing with toys- dolls, action figures, etc. or reading comics or the like was considered weird for adults to do. Adults don't read comics! Adults don't watch cartoons! Adults don't play video games! Except... these days, it's pretty common. Our tastes have grown more mature as we get older, but we still try to retain a little of what we remember fondly from our childhood.

I'll admit, I don't expect everyone to grok what I do, but that's okay- it's a private thing, something I don't like showing to the rest of the world (although there are infantilists that are into humiliation and public displays, something I don't get, myself, but there are different types of infantilists).

I don't think people should be ashamed of who they are and what they do with their life, so long as it harms no one.

[Lisa Nadazdy]

I have never had sex, so I cannot really give an answer. But, I will anyways ...

Kissing and french kissing.
The idea of holding a warm, loving girl against me while I french kiss her, then dip her and kiss her more deeply yet, is a pleasant thought.

Edena, take it from me- most times sex isn't what it's cracked up to be. Many people seem eager to lose their virginity and experience it for the first time. But those experiences rarely are very fulfilling. When you find the right person, it can be mind-blowing, so waiting for that person to come along isn't so bad- it can be well worth the wait.

[Ancalagon]

I have never had sex, so I cannot really give an answer. But, I will anyways ...


I had fetishes *long* before I had sex. It seems however that your desires are well, perfectly wholesome. And that's a good thing - it makes things simpler!